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Emotional Health (32) (e-c)practice How to Notice When You're Being Manipulated 如何注意到自己被操纵了 Trying to understand someone's motive for doing something is a helpful skill to have. A person's motive for his or her actions can vary from wanting to be kind or friendly to deceitful and selfish, and anywhere in between. By learning how to spot situations where you might be in danger of being manipulated by someone whose motives may not be in your favor, you can learn how to protect yourself. 理解某人做某件事的意图是一个有用的技能。。。一个人对他/她自己行为的意图从友善、有好到欺骗、自私，。。以及任何之间变化。。。通过学习如何识别那些可能处于受到某个拥有对你也许不利的意图的人操纵的危险中的处。。境，你能学会如何保护自己。 Steps 步骤 Try not to guess at what another person's motive could be, especially in matters that involve trying to build a sudden but serious friendship or relationship. 不要去猜别人的意图可能是什么，尤其在那些建立突然但是严肃的友谊或关系上。。 Watch out for new friends or buddies at work, such as right after a big job promotion. If that promotion involves being a boss or supervisor, beware of people trying to butter up to you simply because you're the new boss. This doesn't mean that you should assume anyone being friendly is trying to take advantage of you, but don't get into a situation where your personal involvement with them interferes with doing your job well. 留意工作中的新朋友或好友，例如在一次晋升后。如果这样的晋升是成为老板或主管，那么注意那些仅仅因为你成为了新老板而吹嘘拍马的人。 这不表明你应该认为任何表示友好的人们都想占你的便宜，可是不要进入一个与他们的个人上的关系干扰了你把工作做好这一情况。 Beware of the manipulative sales pitch. A sales person isn't really concerned for your welfare. If you feel like you're being pressured into buying something - especially an expensive something. If they're not willing to give you the chance to look around, then chances are they're not really offering you the best deal in town. 注意操纵型销售。。 一个销售人员不是真地关心你的好。。如果你感到自己被迫要买某件东西--尤其是昂贵的。如果他们不愿意给你机会四处看看，那么有可能他们并不真地给你最好的。。 Do your homework before buying. Check competitors and consumer reviews to make sure that what you're being sold is worth what you're paying for it. 购买之前做好功课。 查看竞争者和消费者评价，来确保你被卖予的东西值得你为之所付出的。 Get estimates! Look for the offers that may not be the rock-bottom cheapest, but that include the most comprehensive amount of work and follow-up for the best price. This can apply to all sorts of situations; Auto mechanics, Plumbers/builders/repair contractors of any sort, Doctors and Dentists. 。。。。。。。。 寻找那些也许不是最。。便宜的。。，但是却拥有最全面。。，这对任何情况都适用： Don't be afraid to get a second opinion for any costly treatment or procedure. It is your right to make sure you are getting the best possible care at the best price. Ask as many questions as you want, until you're sure you understand the full situation. If the person's motive really is because they're concerned about your well-being or giving the best deal, they'll happily give you all the information and time you need to make your decision. 丢与任何昂贵的。。或。。不要害怕去获得另一个意见。 确保你以最好的价格获得尽可能好的照顾是你的权利。想问多少问题，就问多少问题，直到你确信知道了全面情况。如果那个人的意图确实是关心你的幸福或。。，那么，他们会快乐地告诉你全部的信息，并允许你一切所需的时间来做出决定。 Buyer beware! A Realtor or an individual could have a very strong motive for selling a house at a "rock bottom price", such as some sort of structural flaw that makes it unsafe. Ask about the history of the property, and why it is being offered at such a low price. Get a building surveyor in to do a thorough top-to-bottom check on the whole property, so you don't miss anything that may affect your decision to buy. Study the market on similar properties so you have a good idea of reasonable and average costs for what you're considering. 买家当心了！ 。。或个人可能，例如，某种使之不安全的结构型缺陷。询问这个地产的历史，为什么开出如此低价。请一位建筑调查人员参与，对整个房产进行至上而下彻底检查，这样你就不会遗漏任何可能影响你购买决定的东西。研究类似房产的市场，这样对于你在考虑的，关于合理价格和平均成本会有一个很好的了解。 Read the fine print on any and all paperwork. Banks are going crazy these days to give out loans and credit cards, but often their motives are centered around extremely high interest rates, or unreasonable fees and repayment schedules. 阅读任何文件上的细则。如今，银行纷纷狂抛售贷款、信用卡，可是往往它们的意图是围绕着极其高的利息，或不合理收费及偿还日程表。 Don't take everything at face value, even with friends or loved ones. 不要把每件事都看成。。。。对边对朋友和所爱的人也一样。 Spend time learning to understand the people close to you, so that when they say or do something which is hurtful or deceitful, you can figure out why. 花时间学会了解同你关系紧密的人，这样的话当他们说了或做了某件具有伤害或欺骗的事情时，你就能知道为什么。 You have a much better chance at resolving the situation in a peaceful manner if you can calmly discuss the motive(s) behind their behavior with them. This works for both positive and negative situations. 如果你能和他们平静地讨论他们行为背后的意图，那么以一个平和的方式解决这个处境上，你的机会大地多。这对于积极和消极的情况都一样。 "Speak softly and carry a big stick, and you will go far." While it's unlikely that Theodore Roosevelt really wanted people to carry around big sticks, his advice is good. He meant that people should make sure that they were equipped to defend themselves properly, but not to be aggressive towards others. oChinadaily BBS - Translation Tips 翻译点津 - Emotional Health (32) (e-c)practicew Time Auto Time Time uChinadaily BBS - Translation Tips 翻译点津 - Emotional Health (32) (e-c)practiceg Auto |